Mar 9, 2021
How to Communicate Effectively through Hard Conversations
“Your business is only as strong as the amount of hard conversations you've had.”
Today’s podcast is for all the introverts and those who don’t know what to say! Amy Smith joins Brooke in a conversation that dives into something that is a hush hush topic in network marketing. It's things that we all internally struggle with, but no one really talks about. Amy is an expert in really coming up with the language of what to say.
One of the big problems in network marketing is when people join a network marketing company, they have an upline who believes in them. They just want to be that people pleaser to their up line and want to do what they say. They want them to believe in them so much.
“People pleasing is the direct antithesis of authenticity..” - Amy Smith
People pleasing is essentially when you choose to make somebody else's wants opinions and needs more important than your own at a cost to self at a cost to your own happiness, fulfillment, core value system authenticity. Sometimes you need to buck the system a little bit and, and go rogue, so to speak, in order to actually be authentic.
If you're twisting and contorting your own behavior in order to make other people happy, or please them, that's being a liar.
The first thing that you should start looking at is how you feel about things. It's your intuition. And most of us are taught not to listen to that. And we kind of grow up in a society that tells us to be logical, to think things through, if this person's my authority, they must know better than I, and then we do the cognitive override, where we override our gut instinct.
Sometimes the method that is being presented to you doesn't resonate with your spirit. We will resist things when it's really not right for us and we will resist things when we're scared. Fear in and of itself is just telling you something, it doesn't have to be bad or good. It just is. We need to be friends with fear and recognize that all it is is messaging and we just have to decipher what the message is.
Having a formula makes having those hard conversations so much easier. Write down your statements, start with gratitude or assuming positive intention, then an honesty about how something does or doesn't feel correct with you. Practice these statements, preferably in a mirror, over and over again so when you are faced with hard conversations, you know what to say.
“It's not the goal that needs to change. It's the method of achieving that goal that needs to change. ” - Who Said It.
Amy has a website where she teaches how to speak up for yourself, how to feel like “enough”, and create some serious self-confidence. (She forewarns everybody that her authentic self happens to be quite a swear bear, a bit of a sailor.) She has tons of advice and freebies at thejoyjunkie.com!
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